Event Recap: Stop Self-Sabotage in 4 Simple Steps

June 25, 2023
On June 13, 2023, CREW Silicon Valley members and guests gathered in Downtown San Jose’s Marriott for networking and a powerful program about recognizing our destructive thought patterns and shifting back into a positive mindset. 

Prior to Thursday’s program, participants were invited to take a pre-assessment of about fifty rapid-fire questions designed to identify our habits and mindsets that hold us back from achieving our best lives. Assessment results then landed in the inbox of the participant.

Janine Aurichio, Certified Coach and Founder of YES2YUM Life Styling, led the mindset workshop. In her presentation, she discussed the ten types of Saboteurs, or types of self-sabotage thought patterns. These Saboteurs include archetypes such as Controller, Hyper-Achiever, Avoider, Victim, and more. Formed in early childhood, these thought patterns helped you survive your early years, but in adulthood, they limit our potential for living a successful life free from chaos. This Saboteur profiling system is based on bestselling book and Stanford lectures on Positive Intelligence, by Shirzad Chamine. 

Following a look at Saboteur profiles, Janine dove into how the mind quiets into creative, calm collectedness in the Sage mindset. In this mindset, the brain creates positive messaging to itself in a calm, clear-headed state of being. The Sage knows that every outcome or circumstance can be turned into a gift or an opportunity. 

Participants also did a couple of exercises with Janine. Early in the program, we were invited to open up handheld mirrors provided by the speaker. Janine instructed us to have a compassionate look in the mirror. We were asked to look at the spark in our eyes, the things that make us special. This certainly generated a lot of smiles throughout the audience. 

Later, we worked on our Positive Intelligence quotient, or “PQ” reps, which involves shifting as much of your attention as you can to your body and any of your five senses for at least ten seconds. This quick exercise brought a whole new level of calm to participants.

In states of stress, we can stop ourselves and change the narrative. After all, whatever you believe about yourself is true. 

Janine shared with us her Four Steps to Stop Self-Sabotage:
1.    If you’re feeling negative emotions, STOP!
2.    Do some mental exercises (PQ reps) to quiet the Saboteurs and activate Sage mindset.
3.    Assume the Sage perspective that every problem can be an opportunity.
4.    Activate the opportunity by using Sage perspective thinking such as empathy, curiosity, creativity, and calm, clear-headed action.

We’d like to thank Ms. Janine Aurichio for speaking to our membership and guests, and the program's annual sponsor spotlights Washington Holdings and Pahl & McCay. Without you, June’s program would not be possible.

View event photos at our Flickr account: https://flic.kr/s/aHBqjAHR1z